After a relationship ends, many people think their heartbreak will be easy to manage. Unfortunately, like so many of us they come to realize that dealing with a breakup can be devastating including the breakup pain that goes along with it. So, in the end it will quickly become obvious that this is not going to be an easy or enjoyable experience.
What some fail to recognize is that carrying a torch for someone after a love affair is a lot like grieving (in the respect that the relationship has passed on). When it comes to dealing with a broken intimate relationship, it is important that you look past the pain and find a way to move on with your life, even if it seems impossible.
Anyone who has ever gone through a relationship breakup knows that it perfectly normal to feel a large degree of insecurity and emotional pain immediately following their heartbreak. Sadly, some people going through these feelings have no one in the world to turn to, which is why they suffer so tragically over their loss. Dealing with breakup pain all by yourself can appear daunting at first, but if just for a moment you stop and consider how many people deal with both love and loss in the course of a lifetime you might begin to see that you are really not alone. So while your breakup pain may seem crippling in this moment, rest easy in knowing that this will pass faster if are willing to deal with your heartbreak pain the right way, and in a way that is healthy for both mind and body.
So why is the pain from a love breakup so difficult?
Because the love in your relationship was a very personal experience, your loss will appear heightened and as if you are the only one who has suffered the kind of pain you're going through. Fear of the unknown also plays an important factor when dealing with a breakup as well as the loss of control over your situation. Rather than giving up, it is important that you allow yourself the necessary time to heal. Instead of dwelling on the painful split from your lover, focus on your own needs. Spend time with friends and family (if you have them available) and let them help you get your mind off your heartbreak. They will probably realize you're going through something painful and will want to be there to help you through this difficult time.
In order to promote healing, don't dwell on bad feelings and focus on the good parts of your life. Get out, enjoy nature or renew an old gym membership. In doing so you will begin to feel better about yourself and might even begin thinking about finding someone new. It could even be with someone that has a better dynamic with you! Who knows?
I should also mention that after your ex realizes you have moved on after your relationship breakup, they may suddenly begin to wonder what you have been up to. If you are interested in renewing your relationship with your ex, take things slow and start as friends. Time will ultimately tell if the two of you are meant to be together. So in the mean time, why not relax and simply have a little fun!