Relationships are very complicated things. This makes a relationship breakup something which is very hard to process and move past. It's hard to separate from someone with whom you've made a deep and (as far as you'd thought up to the breakup) lasting connection. Of course, this may not be how both of the former partners may feel in the wake of a breakup. One may be satisfied with how things worked out and be happy to begin moving on. The other partner may want more than anything to revive the relationship, even to the extent of being in denial about the breakup having happened. This can be a difficult place to be psychologically. Many people could benefit from some expert advice while trying to cope with a relationship breakup.
It's important to be able to draw the distinction between a relationship which has a chance of being repaired and one where all bridges have been burned and there is no hope of reunion. The chances of a relationship being salvageable after a breakup depend largely on the circumstances of the split. If one partner is ready and willing to move on cheerfully, then the chances are sadly not so good. Sometimes people can't bring themselves to believe this and will put a lot of effort in trying to win back their no longer interested former partner. This behavior is at best annoying to their ex and at worst, may constitute stalking. There are better ways to deal with a relationship breakup than this. Keep reading for some tips to help you get past the effects of a relationship breakup and move on with your life.
You'll need to take some time to yourself and cool off while you work through things. A breakup can come as a real shock and can leave you depressed or even angry. However, you need to get your mind off of the break up and get into some activities you enjoy and fill those now empty hours. A new hobby, a much needed vacation, whatever it takes to get your mind off of things for a while. As they say, time heals all wounds - and it really is true, no matter how you might feel right now.
You'll do a better job of coping with a breakup if you have some support. It's good to have a shoulder to cry on and a friendly ear after a relationship break up. Talk with your friends; they may have better advice than you'd give them credit for. There is a lot to be said for talking things out with a sympathetic person - you'll gain perspective and of course, spending time with friends will make you feel less lonely.
Now, you don't want to be a downer when you're spending time with friends. Talk about your problems with your friends, but don't let this be the only thing you talk about! This will make your persona non grata pretty quickly. Your friends already know how you feel; so move on to other subjects. If you dwell on your relationship break up, it will only make you feel worse anyway.